I was nervous for this one. I fancy myself as a pretty decent communicator, but there is nothing like inviting a communication consultant, to put that confidence to the test. Mary Shores is the author of Conscious Communications and has been working as a CEO and serious badass for the last 20 years. Her interest in language is not relegated to simply one’s vocabulary, she is equally fascinated with the neurological implications of tone and intonation. Seriously cool stuff.
Mary teaches people how to harness the power of words to change their own mindset and the mindset of those around them. This was a super-fascinating conversation because all of us are in a position of influence — all of us are out there trying to change the world on a daily basis. If we don’t have our words to back us up, we miss out on the opportunity for greater impact.
[3:08] About Mary Shores’ journey and how she developed an interest and curiosity in the power of communication.
[4:08] Mary’s process in coaching others in conscious communication.
[5:15] What Mary considers a negative word and her tips on how to replace these negative words.
[7:03] How do we say ‘no’ when it is appropriately respecting our boundaries and not shutting down things emotionally?
[9:20] How to harness the power of Mary’s teaching while setting out to embark on your goals and resolutions in the new year.
[10:57] Mary’s process for getting people to see what they’re grateful for.
[13:07] What is happening on a neurological basis when we engage in negative self-talk.
[15:55] The power of affirmations and why sometimes people are resistant to them.
[19:32] The important tool that is journaling and the key to patience.
[22:25] Tools in communication that Mary uses in her own life.
[24:25] Questioning the systems we create that evaluate a person’s success.
[25:20] The communication styles in adults that make Mary cringe.
[26:11] Challenge yourself to go on a complaint diet!
[27:44] The business side of things: the things leaders need to keep in mind when communicating with their team.
[31:35] How Mary transitioned from being a communication specialist to compiling everything she learned into her book.
[37:09] What Mary would like her legacy to be.
[37:43] How Mary describes health.
[39:48] Rapid-fire questions; Mary’s KPIs!
[45:18] Where to find more about what Mary Shores is up to.
Mentioned in This Episode:
BONUS GIFT with purchase! Free download for the Conscious Communications Guidebook, a companion course for Conscious Communications, packed with over 35 pages of exercises to make Mary’s teachings even more real.
More About Mary Shores
Mary is an author, speaker, and developmental consultant, who strives to help people create the lives they’ve always dreamed of. She’s the author of Conscious Communications: A Step-by-Step Guide to Harnessing the Power of Your Words to Change Your Mind, Your Choices, and Your Life.
Mary is recognized as a leader of innovative thought and has spent over a decade teaching businesses and individuals how to identify their goals, create new ways of thinking, and take action to create meaningful results. She travels across the nation giving lectures and teaching courses and has been featured on local and national radio and television shows, podcasts, and blogs.
Connect with my Guest:
Her most recent publication: Conscious Communications
If you enjoyed our conversation and would like to hear more:
We would also appreciate a review!
Join our badass Women’s Facebook Group, Legacy Performance Labs
If you want to be something amazing, you need to surround yourself with amazing people! The Legacy community is made up of badass women living — not leaving — their legacy every single day. If you are on a mission and get it that your health is the key to your unlimited potential — Join us on Facebook!
See where you stack up and take this month’s quiz right here!
Part of improving your health and performance as an entrepreneur requires that you take inventory of your current state of health. To this end, we have prepared a monthly quiz related to the health and performance of entrepreneurs and go-getters.
CALL TO ACTION
Mary Shores challenges you to go on a complaint diet. Complaining reinforces those negative neural pathways. Pay attention to how much you complain — don’t judge yourself — but take note, forgive yourself, move on, and be grateful that you recognized the fact that you were complaining.
“2018 is going to be a massive year of unconditional love, prosperity, and security.”
— Mary Shores
“Unconditional love is the most important step to empowerment — and to get there it is as simple as being grateful for your own gifts.” — Mary Shores
“When we are participating in complaining, judgment, and negative self-talk of any kind — what we are doing is reinforcing those neural pathways.” — Mary Shores
“So when you talk about achievement, you can only achieve to the level of what you believe is possible.” — Mary Shores
“Whenever you’re doing a daily practice of anything you are going to make changes in your brain.” — Mary Shores
“We’re always looking for this instant transformation … but the truth is … true transformation happens in small pivots over time; it takes a season.” — Mary Shores
“If you have a small business, think about guidelines, expectations, and level of authority.” — Mary Shores
“My goal is literally to change the collective consciousness.” — Mary Shores
“I definitely want to expand people’s mindsets and their consciousness — and really just be a part of that puzzle.” — Mary Shores