Do you seek the validation of others before doing what you want?
Dr. Shyamala Kiru is a therapist turned relationship and leadership coach who spends her days teaching the art of emotional intelligence.
She believes that emotional intelligence is the key to unlocking success on a whole new level, and today Shyamala is here to teach us just that!
I am thrilled to share this incredible conversation with Shyamala, where we discussed self-authorization, boundaries, and taking responsibility.
She shares her top tips for improving your relationship with the most important person in your life: yourself
This episode will teach you how to build trust with yourself, and I promise you that self-trust will make life so much easier!
[1:05] About today’s episode.
[2:11] Welcoming Shyamala Kiru to the podcast!
[2:48] Who Shyamala is and what she does.
[4:26] The definition of emotional intelligence.
[6:39] Why many women struggle to put boundaries into their lives.
[8:10] Do we socialize girls differently than boys?
[9:21] How to compassionately and confidently set boundaries.
[17:16] Trusting yourself is so important.
[18:32] Taking responsibility.
[21:03] The relationship between self-authorization and a need for approval.
[22:17] Gaining courage.
[24:04] How you can teach your children self-authorization.
[27:21] Breaking down imposter syndrome.
[31:43] How to handle anxiety around getting out of your comfort zone.
[35:05] Managing the people who aren’t comfortable with your success.
[38:59] Shyamala’s “metrics of impact.”
[14:17] Where to find more of Shyamala.
[41:50] Reflections from today’s episode.
Connect with my Guest:
Social Media: Instagram @dr.shyamalakiru
Emotional mastery is the ability to remain calm and confident, regardless of external circumstances.
I think one of the biggest reasons women struggle so much with decision-making is because we don’t actually know how to make decisions that align with our goals because we’ve been raised to make decisions that accommodate others.
I often define confidence as a deep sense of trust in yourself.
I’ve learned that imposter syndrome doesn’t have to be a bad thing. You can totally feel it and say, awesome. This is just an indication that I am consistently playing a bigger game.